It does not matter how light or mild a “joke” seems to the abuser. If the recipient of the joke does not like it or seems uncomfortable with it, it should not be made. It is essential to apply what we have learned and use our voice when we see “joking” take place.
“A panda bear walks into a bar, eats, shoots and leaves.” Yes, sometimes a joke is just a joke. Even so, sometimes a joke is used in an attempt to reduce interpersonal anxiety between people who are interacting with each other. Sometimes a joke is used to make a social comment.
During his 34-minute speech, Biden used his "not a joke" phrase six times, as follows -- not that anyone thought he was joking. Video Player is loading.
They want to get away with it. By saying their insult is a joke, they make you feel guilty for getting mad. The cure, is to ask them, what exactly was funny about what they said. When they can't point out any humor, tell them that making insulting remarks is not acceptable, and calling it a joke is just idiotic.
Answer (1 of 15): It’s a defense mechanism and/or a means of manipulating the victim and bystanders into not protesting their behavior. By minimizing it as a “joke,” others are caused to feel guilty/uncomfortable about objecting b/c you are then caused to feel as if you’re making too big a deal o...
Answer (1 of 8): Labeling an inappropriate or offensive comment as a joke does not absolve them from the repercussions of having made said comment. They knowingly chose speak it, perhaps without thinking first, or maybe for the potential laugh factor, depending on the “audience”. Either way, in...
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In news of the truly weird, there is a "disease" that causes people to make puns, compulsively joke, and engage in "wacky" behavior. And you don't want it for more than just social reasons.
Even so, sometimes a joke is used in an attempt to reduce interpersonal anxiety between people who are interacting with each other. Sometimes a joke is used to make a social comment. Today in America, interpersonal anxiety and social comments are both often motivated by neo-diversity anxiety.
Implied was the belief that women are only good for one thing; that group prejudice showed clear in the gender-bigotry of those “welcome” signs. Yet some thought, come on it’s just a joke.
Understand that the point of bigotry is to incite group division; us versus them. Jokes activate that minimal group effect; automatic categorization of people into groups with a tendency to see those groups as being in competition with each other.
You might wonder, though, who would joke about violence against women. It turns out far too many college men think those jokes are funny. And not only do some college males think such jokes are funny, but they are so confident that these jokes are acceptable they tell such jokes to female classmates . A female student in my “Interpersonal Relationships and Race” course wrote a paper about the time a male classmate told her a “joke.”
A blonde joke, then, is not just a joke; it is divisive. A joke about women is not just a joke; it is divisive. A joke about violence against women is more than divisive; it is demeaning and dangerous. You might wonder, though, who would joke about violence against women. It turns out far too many college men think those jokes are funny.
Jokes that make someone feel uncomfortable or hurt, or that specifically address something the other person asked not to discuss, are abusive.
In some societies, individuals are seen as less-than because of their gender, background or financial status.
It does not matter how light or mild a “joke” seems to the abuser. If the recipient of the joke does not like it or seems uncomfortable with it, it should not be made.
The casual observer doesn’t know Jack battles with social anxiety so they might not be sensitive to how harmful the situation is and might actually join Sarah in her mocking. As his spouse, Sarah is intimately aware of Jack’s deep vulnerability in these settings.
For one, some families make humiliation a sport. They may sit around the dinner table, picking away at other people’s insecurities to produce a laugh. And while some individuals from that type of home may be less sensitive to abusive “joking,” make no mistake: they are not immune to its effects.
The moment the Catholic picks up, the former-Jewish man tells him that he had several people knocking at his door at two in the morning when he least expected it . The former Jewish man tells his friend that from his sleep-addled perspective, they strangely almost seemed like they were covered in sca ...
A prince is awaiting a letter from his loved one for three days and three nights. On the fourth day, a pigeon flies in and drops a letter on his lap. When he opens it he reads:
Joking is a way to buffer the initial shock of seeing reality. Hopefully to give a slight clue to how to initially begin to understand it too….though some joke tellers and listeners perpetually resist that understanding.
If they say it was ‘just a joke’ then you can say something like ‘Oh, then you didn’t mean it and you apologize for saying it and you won’t feel the need to repeat it in my presence again?’
Ask the person to stop doing that and instead just tell you directly what's bothering them and then be open to working out the problems between you. I've always
By minimizing it as a “joke,” others are caused to feel guilty/uncomfortable about objecting b/c you are then caused to feel as if you’re making too big a deal out of it. There will, of course, be times when you get offended by something that really was intended as a joke and was not intended to be hurtful. This doesn’t apply in those instances. Neither are you obligated to tolerate/laugh off intentionally insulting behavior. As such, you should drop them because, as you said,
Before I go ahead I must tell you, people tend to jabs on others only when they need to get you attention or want to devalue you in public or for general fun. Nobody usually picks on someone well accomplished (health, wealth, profession, society, influential), /someone senior/someone physically intimidating or most importantly, someone respectable, irrespective of their age/profession/looks.
Response: Stand up for yourself, respond offensively and maybe abuse/threaten based on the severity of the jab. Your return jab must be short, well composed, do not keep talking/defending yourself as that shows low self-esteem!
They want to get away with it. By saying their insult is a joke, they make you feel guilty for getting mad.
Clearly, our words carry power. And we are wise to use them well. Though our words have capacity to cause harm, they can also uplift. And the Bible lauds the power of laughter. Proverbs 17:22 says, "A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.".
Joking is rather a loose term. We have clean jokes, crude jokes, belittling jokes, stupid jokes, and just plain old jokes. Some joking, such as that which finds humor in blasphemy, is obviously contrary to the Bible's teaching; but is joking in general a sin?
Even so, sometimes a joke is used in an attempt to reduce interpersonal anxiety between people who are interacting with each other. Sometimes a joke is used to make a social comment. Today in America, interpersonal anxiety and social comments are both often motivated by neo-diversity anxiety.
Implied was the belief that women are only good for one thing; that group prejudice showed clear in the gender-bigotry of those “welcome” signs. Yet some thought, come on it’s just a joke.
Understand that the point of bigotry is to incite group division; us versus them. Jokes activate that minimal group effect; automatic categorization of people into groups with a tendency to see those groups as being in competition with each other.
You might wonder, though, who would joke about violence against women. It turns out far too many college men think those jokes are funny. And not only do some college males think such jokes are funny, but they are so confident that these jokes are acceptable they tell such jokes to female classmates . A female student in my “Interpersonal Relationships and Race” course wrote a paper about the time a male classmate told her a “joke.”
A blonde joke, then, is not just a joke; it is divisive. A joke about women is not just a joke; it is divisive. A joke about violence against women is more than divisive; it is demeaning and dangerous. You might wonder, though, who would joke about violence against women. It turns out far too many college men think those jokes are funny.