of course i care about how you imagined i thought you perceived i wanted you to feel

Does it matter how others perceive you?

But first, let’s clarify why it matters how others perceive you. Most people accept that other peoples’ perceptions of them do matter. Not everyone though. Some believe that what other people think of them is of no consequence at all. From their point of view “confident people do their own thing”. They are right to some extent.

Why is understanding how people perceive you important?

It’s about understanding how people perceive you so that you can make small changes to your behaviour to make you look and sound confident. If you can work out how others perceive you, you can understand how you come across to them. This matters. If you get it wrong, it could be the reason why some people see you as lacking in confidence.

How do people form a perception of You?

For example, people will form a perception of you just by looking at your facial expression, the way you stand or even by the way you shake their hand. Some people like to be the centre of attention and to talk, others prefer to watch from the side lines and to listen.

Why is it important to understand how people perceive you?

It’s about understanding how people perceive you so that you can make small changes to your behaviour to make you look and sound confident. If you can work out how others perceive you, you can understand how you come across to them. This matters.

How do people form perceptions of you?

For example, people will form a perception of you just by looking at your facial expression, the way you stand or even by the way you shake their hand. Some people like to be the centre of attention and to talk, others prefer to watch from the side lines and to listen.

How to use questionnaires effectively?

To really use your scores from the questionnaires effectively, try opening your mind a touch. This should help to explain why different people react to you in different ways. You probably feel most comfortable with people who have a similar communication style to you.

Why do people see me as lacking in confidence?

If you get it wrong, it could be the reason why some people see you as lacking in confidence. If you get it right, you can start to think about adapting your behaviour so that their perception of you is what you want it to be. In short, knowing how you come across to other people puts you in control and this in turn will make you look ...

What is the reality of life?

The reality of life is that most people cannot help but be affected by other peoples’ impressions of them and therefore how people react to them. But I want to show you how this is a positive thing if considered constructively.

Why should you score yourself separately on a piece of paper?

You should score yourself separately on a piece of paper so that you can compare your own results to how other people have scored you.