This was our course: We realized that the people who wronged us were perhaps spiritually sick. Though we did not like their symptoms and the way these disturbed us, they, like ourselves, were sick too.
We have begun to comprehend their futility and their fatality. We have commenced to see their terrible destructiveness. We have begun to learn tolerance, patience and good will toward all men, even our enemies, for we look on them as sick people.
To conclude that others were wrong was as far as most of us ever got. The usual outcome was that people continued to wrong us and we stayed sore. Sometimes it was remorse and then we were sore at ourselves.
We have commenced to see their terrible destructiveness. We have begun to learn tolerance, patience and good will toward all men, even our enemies, for we look on them as sick people.
As explained in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, “we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick. When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically.” When men and women look inwardly, the spiritual component of the disease becomes apparent.
Pg. 68 FEAR – We ask Him to remove our fear and direct our attention to what He would have us be.
'If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free.
The case is plainly stated in the Big Book: "Resentment is the number one offender. It destroys more alcoholics than anything else." A person mired in resentment has scant chances of recovering from addiction. And remember that many forms of addiction left unchecked are fatal.
p.6767) "We asked God to help us show the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. When a person offended we said to ourselves, 'This is a sick man/woman.
Think, O' God, of our friend who is ill, whom we now commend to Your compassionate regard. that no healing is too hard if it be Your will. We therefore pray that You bless our friend with Your loving care, renew his/her strength, and heal what ails him/her in Your loving name.
God, when a person offends me, help me to remember this is a sick person. Help me show the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. Show me how can I help them. Save me from being angry.
7 tips from therapists for learning how to let go of resentmentRemember: Some resentment is okay. ... Embrace a new perspective. ... Talk it out. ... Step into the other person's shoes. ... Find space for forgiveness (even if you don't reconcile with the person) ... Speak with a therapist to pinpoint preexisting emotional pain.More items...•
When the feelings become too overwhelming, they can contribute to resentment. When this happens, trust and love in relationships are broken and sometimes never repaired. A person experiencing resentment will often feel a complex variety of emotions that include anger, disappointment, bitterness, and hard feelings.
A spiritual malady, in the sense that Bill W. is describing, essentially is referring to a stark void in our lives that we constantly attempt to fill with outside things such as drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, or anything we can think to try to feel better.
You must remember that resentments are nothing other than another form of addiction, and that your compulsive desire to dwell on the past will do nothing to change it. You must also accept the part that you have played in these resentments, for this is a major step toward letting go of them for once and for all.
Resentment is a feeling defined as “anger because you are forced to accept something that you do not like.” In the case of addicts, many feel resentment for a variety of reasons. Perhaps they feel frustration towards their current living situation, mistakes made in their addiction, and the addiction itself.
I cant get my head around the method of dealing with resentments & the Big Book appears to confuse things. We are giving clear instructions on Page 66:
Here's how I did/do it. Our fears list is completely separate and not associated with the resentments portion of the 4th Step. Set it aside as it is it's own list.
Do we see the person who wronged us as spiritually sick or do we see that our actions may have resulted in the other person harming us?
I think this is a great prayer. Hope the sick people recover soon. Some music can help them relax and reduce stress more.
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The grouch and the brainstorm were not for us. They may be the dubious luxury of normal men, but for rageaholics these things are poison. We began to see that the world and its people really dominated us. In that state, the wrong-doing of others, fancied or real, had power to actually kill.
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